Life Choices – Living Without Regrets

As we bid farewell to one year and welcome the next, it’s natural to reflect and plan. Before you dive into your plans, let me share a story from a lunch with Teresa in June this year.

I first met Teresa and her Mum, Betty, many years ago when they were my personal training clients at a local gym. After our professional ties loosened, we became friends, staying in touch over the years. Sadly, Betty passed away this year, and I met Teresa a month afterwards to check on how she was doing.

During her mum’s later years, Teresa, like many children, had taken care of and supported her. As we discussed the past and the gaps left behind, our conversation turned to Teresa’s future plans.

A lifelong dream of Teresa’s has been a trip to Australia. With a husband facing mobility issues and a reluctance to travel, Teresa felt her options were limited. However, she remained open to possibilities, considering asking a friend or joining an organised tour group rather than being a solo traveller planning everything herself.

Teresa then said, “I don’t want to die knowing I haven’t been there.” This sentiment often arises when uncertainty looms and desires are strong. I posed a question, “What about living knowing you have been there? Imagine how differently life would feel.”

It’s not just what we say; it’s how we say it that matters. We tend to focus on what we don’t want to happen rather than what we do. Our energy, both conscious and subconscious, follows our focus. Instead of saying “I don’t want to get wet” when it looks like rain, consider telling yourself that you want to stay dry. Similarly, replace “I don’t want to be tired” with a wish for boundless energy.

Avoid Regret - Focus on what you actually want Take a moment to listen to how you talk about what you want. Are you focusing on what you are keen to avoid or what you truly want to happen? Now, consider your plans for 2024. Are they centred on what you want to avoid or what you want to celebrate, embrace, and achieve?

Teresa hasn’t solidified her travel plans yet. We’re planning another lunch soon.

Thank you for taking the time to read my blogs this year. I’ll be back in January 2024.

However you celebrate this time of year, I wish you happiness, love, and fulfilment now and throughout 2024.

Till next time…

Enjoy the day you create.

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